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A guide to sharing your experience in writing

If you choose to send us your written experience by post or email, the questions below can help guide you, but you don’t have to use them if you don’t want to. You don’t have to answer every question – just write about the things you want to tell us about.

You may want to:

  • Tell us a little bit about your childhood.

  • Tell us about what happened to you.

  • If you feel comfortable doing so, tell us who abused you.

  • Tell us if anyone knew about the abuse that you suffered.

  • Tell us who you feel failed to protect you.

  • Tell us what the impact of the abuse has been, then and now.

  • Tell us if you have been able to access support, then and now.

  • Tell us what changes you would like to see to protect children in the future.

Please remember to only share what you feel comfortable sharing. Someone else can draft your account on your behalf, if you give consent. We do not need the names of any abusers, institutions or dates if you do not wish to share them.  

Please don’t worry about how you write your account, how you spell things or the words you use. This is your experience and it is up to you how you write about it.

Please remember

  • What you write is not a legal statement.

  • Only write what you feel comfortable sharing.

  • You don’t need to give us exact details of dates or places.

  • You don’t need to give us names of abusers or other victims unless you want to. You don’t need to send us any other documents or files.

  • You don’t need to tell us about the abuse you suffered unless you want to.

  • You don’t have to use the questions if you don’t want to

  • If writing about your experiences triggers upsetting memories and feelings, please look at the booklet Your Wellbeing which has some ideas about how you can look after yourself.

Your consent

We need to ask for your consent to use the information that you share with us. 

If you have shared your experience by writing in our booklet or filling in our online form, you will have been asked for consent, so you can ignore this.

If you are posting or emailing your written experience, please download the consent form, fill it in and return it with your experience. 

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It is important that you understand what we are asking you to agree to. If you have any questions about consent, or would like to receive a copy of the consent form by post, please contact us on or call 0800 917 1000.

Your privacy

There are very limited circumstances where we tell anyone your name without your consent, for example if a child is currently at risk and we need to tell the police.