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Experiences Shared

These are some of the experiences of child sexual abuse shared with the Truth Project by victims and survivors. All names and identifying details have been changed.

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Ruben cannot understand why he and his siblings were left so long in appalling conditions at home

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Ruben and his two siblings lived with their mother, who was abusive and neglectful.

She often went out and left them in the care of a teenage neighbour, who sexually abused all three children. Ruben says the way he feels about the abuse is almost secondary to his anger that social services did not remove the children from their mother.

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Lola applies her experiences of sexual abuse to deliver prevention education in schools

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Lola grew up in a Catholic family. She was sexually abused by a relative for many years, starting when she was a small child. 

She was subjected to further sexual abuse by three more perpetrators, including a priest. She believes that her early experiences made her confused and vulnerable to other abusers.

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Hannah feels that talking to the Truth Project has helped her in the healing process

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Hannah was sexually abused by her uncle, her mother’s stepbrother, in her home and in the home of her grandparents.

She was very young at the time and, as the perpetrator was a relative, she says she initially thought the abuse was ‘normal family affection.’ She describes her family set-up as ‘odd’.

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Miyanna says men should not be allowed to teach girls alone in mosques

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Miyanna was born into a strict Muslim family. 

A teacher at the mosque sexually abused her, but she was afraid she would be punished if she spoke out.

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Alwyn believes that the abuse he experienced will never go away

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When Alwyn was not selected for his college football team, a lecturer took advantage and offered extra coaching, then sexually abused him.

Alwyn was 16 when he went to further education college. Because it was some distance from his home, he stayed in accommodation on the campus. 

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Lisa-Marie’s violent father sexually abused her for two years, until he began having an affair

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Lisa-Marie grew up with her mother, two siblings  and her father, who was violent to the whole family.

When her father started to sexually abuse her she decided not to tell anyone,to protect her mother and siblings, and to not make the situation they were in any worse. 

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Pauly feels the court process he went through met the needs of the perpetrator rather than his victims

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Pauly was sexually abused as a teenager by the head of a children’s home.

He describes his difficult experiences of trying to get justice at the time, and again nearly 40 years later.

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Almudena did not want to say in front of her mother that she was being sexually abused

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As a young child, Almudena had to care for her mother who had physical and mental health problems.

She was sexually abused by two men. Social workers were involved with the family, but she never saw them on her own and did not feel able to tell them what was happening to her.

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Staff in the children’s home never asked why Zora was going out at night with adult males

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Zora was taken into care because her stepfather was sexually abusing her. 

But the children’s home she was sent to did not protect her from abuse by other men.

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Olivia thought ‘It was normal for girls to do anything to please their partner, even if they hated it’

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Olivia felt ignored by her parents, and this made her vulnerable to sexual abuse by a teenage boy.

Because the abuser was only two years older than her, Olivia feels the police did not see the abuse as ‘too problematic’.

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After being sexually abused in care, Katie says care records need to be accurate and transparent

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Katie was taken into care at a young age but is not sure exactly why. She says she felt well‑loved by her family but remembers her mother forgetting to pick her up from school a couple of times, having been drinking.

Katie describes the next six years of her life in children’s homes as ‘hell on earth’. She was subjected to sexual abuse, violent assault, emotional abuse and neglect. On one occasion she believes she nearly died – she had a serious illness, but care staff did not believe she was ill and would not seek medical help.

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Violence was ‘normal’ for Bobby when he was growing up, which left him vulnerable to sexual abuse

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Bobby’s parents were alcoholics and had a violent relationship, which Bobby often witnessed. The family were known to social services and he was in and out of care as a child.

On one occasion he was placed with a ‘lovely’ foster family, but he says he could not emotionally handle their niceness. Social services placed him with another family that he did not like from the first meeting.The foster father used to mock him. Bobby told the social worker that he did not want to stay with the foster family, but he was left there.

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